I continue meditating ... asking myself why the hell love relationships have such a stupid dynamic... many going from the status of amazing ... to even being defined as toxic.
And i analyse even people from the streets ... trying to understand from their vibrations i see on their faces why they have the emotional balance between being happy and unhappy.
It's not that i came to a level of being seen as a relationship guru, cause into my private life had lots of problems in relationships ... and still have ... but I understand it's all related with ... the expectations.
Yes ... unfortunately .... my expectations ... our expectations hurt us the most.
We dream of a perfect partner ... and one day .... we really meet that person .... which is inducing us the illusion that life is beautiful together ... and we could really experience happiness.
... in continuous form.
And ... even if all is perfect ... remembering of all that long list of illusory expectations ... we unconsciously try to change our partners.
We say them ... into an abstract way what we want.
We try to manipulate them.
We try to force them do the things we like ... even if we know they dislike it.
In fact ... we try to force things go into a direction we like it ... believing it's the perfect way.
But ... little by little ... those beautiful vibes felt into the beginning of the relationship ... are just destroyed.
... one by one .
We delay analysing ... why things happen the way they happen ... but ...
Well ... suddenly ... one day ... we just start to dislike all ... and we can't believe it.
So ... we ask ... how could a beautiful story be metamorphosed into an ugly one?!
I've personally asked myself that .... many, many times.
But ... even if i lied myself one million times ... one day I've understood that i was not disappointed by those partners from my past, but because my illusory expectations did not became real.
And ... believe me .... like any other idiot ... i had an extremely long list of expectations.
So ... i've always ended being disappointed.
Time was passing ... and i was living the same experiences... on and on and on ... strongly believing that life must be the
way i want to be.
... not the way i was experiencing it ... even it somehow all was perfect.
In fact .... like an idiot ... i could not embrace... any other scenario for my happiness.
I simple wanted all to be only and only as i wanted.
Nothing more ...
So ... i've failed .
1, 2, 3 ... 12 etc times.
... accepting to live in disappointment.
After years of meditation ... i could only conclude that i could not adapt myself at the beautiful scenarios induced by the Universe.
Maybe ... I've believed i was smarter than the Infinite Intelligence... and even if all was a balance between happiness and unhappiness .... I could not stop myself ... coming up with lots of explanations.
Well ... until I've understood all was useless.
I had to learn ... to shut up ... and stop asking anything ...
Live ... without expectations.
Enjoy life ... ignoring all my illusory scenarios about happiness.
In fact ... live without any plan at all.romance books
Ignore the future ... and simple live into the now ....
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